Today is Wednesday, but we are still coming out of the fog of a wedding weekend. One of our sons was married this past Saturday so we had a ton of family in for the wedding – there were 27 people in all involved in our weekend on our side of the family. It was awesome!
So today feels a little bit like a Monday because we have decided that we have to move on and reclaim the house – while that many people were not staying at our house (where would they stay, right? We have three of ours that still live with us and three fosters, we did have 5 staying with us, including a couple of groomsmen on the couches and some readjustments to some rooms. That makes 13 in the house and so the house is a little out of sorts. We are currently on laundry load number 2 of 324 🙂
See, here’s the thing, by the time everyone left on Monday morning, we have had doctor’s appointments, our son had a football thing that we loaded all of our crew up to go watch, plus the son’s sweet girlfriend. We will have a foster care support worker over, we have paperwork for our two year foster license renewal that we STILL haven’t sat down to do, an Early Intervention worker to see the newborn’s progress was over this morning, there will be a visitation with a mother that is an hour away tomorrow, plus church small group tonight – at our house, we have our foster parent association meeting tomorrow night, and all the regular things that need to be done in any household that has 8 people living in it.
No, foster care is not for the faint of heart. But, really neither is parenting, or marriage, or life. It’s all hard work. And no matter what you do there will be those moments when the nine-year-old who lives with you will come and tell you that he doesn’t have any clean underwear and you’ll wonder how you let that slip or that you’ve run out of dog food and no one told you until 11:30 at night and there’s nothing to feed the dogs in the morning – thank goodness for teen drivers, am I right?
We do everything that you do and we have the same issues that you do, we just add a few extra people to the mix and when the phone rings and you see that number and you know that it’s placement – you STILL get excited and you say “Yes! Bring that kid to my house now!” You know when you say yes that it is just going to complicate things, all the doctor visits, dentist appointments, counseling, social workers coming to your house, meetings that have to be attended, court proceedings that you need to be there for so that you can be aware of what is happening… All of these things are part of the deal AND when you have the room and you have more than one case in your home, you can double some of that.
So, this morning, I am sitting here, just needing to write all of this down as we get back into the grind. My wife has taken three of ours to the park because they REALLY need some outside time. One is at football practice. Two of ours are napping for now and I am listening for the clothes dryer to finish and about to go microwave my coffee, again.
Fostering is the BEST thing you will ever do, but I always tell the foster parents I train, it’s a lifestyle, not just a few more things to do. There’s more to it than just loving kids. You will have to change the way you do life, discipline your kids, plan meals, plan outings, plan anything and everything. But, oh my goodness, what a wonderful life it is. I love it and I wouldn’t go back for anything.